The Cupid’s arrow of Love in the heart of fatal attraction “Romantic Love”
The feeling of chill down the spine at the touch of a loved one, being wrapped in the arms of a loved one, first or a passionate kiss, holding hands, cuddling together evoke an emotional response in the mind and body of an individual. Many people would associate these phrases with their individual or desires experiences and memories of love.
The journey of emotions of love has a mystery and chemistry as its trademark that unraveled with research in time. It’s also the most dynamic emotion that has been the element of change, conflict, or commitment throughout time. The cycle of falling in the ocean of love, enjoying the depth of it, and rising together from the depth to the surface to face the realities of life is a roller coaster ride.
Dopamine, Oxytocin, and Vasopressin (Debiec, 2007) are the neuromodulators that act as a facilitator for the feelings associated to the emotion of love. The Crazy, Euphoric in love phase is heightened as the serotonin guards are lowered in the first year of being in love. After this phase, the serotonin levels gradually return to normal and the honeymoon phase is over.
There is an increase in the oxytocin hormone, a neurotransmitter associated with a calmer, more mature form of love; wherein the couple lands on the testing grounds with showers of realities of life. Oxytocin helps cement bonds raise immune function if you pass the reality test. Love has the component of attraction, lust, and attachment that changes over time with health benefits and there is the scope of living happily ever after.
Romantic or marital love is different from other forms of love due to the elements of sexual intercourse and procreation. Thus this specific element can be a strong bonding or breaking factor in the relationship. Dopamine is the primary pleasure neurotransmitter of the brain’s reward circuitry, which plays an important role in both sexual arousal and romantic feelings.
As Carl Jung said, “the meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: If there is any reaction both are transformed”. The interplay of these neuromodulators with experiences over time changes the way an individual responds to the emotion of love in the journey of life.